Post by kscarle on Jan 19, 2008 20:21:57 GMT -5
I have not been posting much lately...
My daughter just recently miscarried her child and I have been trying to console her... Her body did not expel it so , the baby had to be removed...I wanted the readers to be aware of some things we just recently found out...
1. They refer to it as tissue - It's a baby
2. They do group cremations every two months - It's a baby
3. They do not tell you of your full rights
4. They try to tell you the easiest way of doing things is the best
My daughter cramping about two weeks prior and had some bleeding (I understand that can be normal) she was also treated for an infection and told they couldn't hear the heartbeat but it was normal. She went a week more looking forward to seeing the baby on the sonogram, both her and her husband were so excited. The sonogram showed the baby dead (no heartbeat) and from the measurements it had been dead ~two weeks. even though there are four major hospitals in the city, the doctor she found (she didn't know her until a ~ couple of weeks before hand) recommended her to she only did this surgery in a particular hospital....IT turned out to be a catholic hospital. The first tried to get us to speak with an older woman who called herself the sister and said she was the chaplain...I explained we do not acknowledge women as chaplains, and we spoke to someone else (later to have to deal with the first woman.)They told us (my daughter and me) that they placed the remains in a place called Memorial Gardens (I think that's right)and they made it sound very beautiful and loving. After she signed the papers they handed me some information. My husband and son in law showed up and decided to go see this place...It was a small spot in the back of the hospital and the engraving on the stone was not right with us plus when I looked at the paper it gave a different view of what we had been told they collect tissue (babies) for two months, have the funeral home pick them up, do a cremation and the ashes are put out back of the hospital.
There was a clause that my son in law saw in the paper and thankfully, we were allowed to make other arrangements.y daughter had already been through enough without thinking of her unborn child being burned and dumped in the back of a catholic hospital. She was near the end of her first trimester and we decided to have a burial. The doctor said she didn't know what to do because it was the first time anyone had ever requested to bury the remains of such. We made the arrangements and even though the female who called herself the chaplain wasn't very pleased with it, she had to oblige us our request. It's not over yet because there is still the weeks of waiting before it can be turned over to the funeral home.
The little unborn John leaped in the womb at the presence of the unborn Jesus. What my daughter had in her womb was a baby. This may all sound very odd to everyone, but it was important to us and if anyone is every in a similar predicament please check the facts. Also I should have mentioned we spoke to the funeral home before the surgery and checked on state regulations and they were very helpful, whereas we might have not of known of our options.
My daughter just recently miscarried her child and I have been trying to console her... Her body did not expel it so , the baby had to be removed...I wanted the readers to be aware of some things we just recently found out...
1. They refer to it as tissue - It's a baby
2. They do group cremations every two months - It's a baby
3. They do not tell you of your full rights
4. They try to tell you the easiest way of doing things is the best
My daughter cramping about two weeks prior and had some bleeding (I understand that can be normal) she was also treated for an infection and told they couldn't hear the heartbeat but it was normal. She went a week more looking forward to seeing the baby on the sonogram, both her and her husband were so excited. The sonogram showed the baby dead (no heartbeat) and from the measurements it had been dead ~two weeks. even though there are four major hospitals in the city, the doctor she found (she didn't know her until a ~ couple of weeks before hand) recommended her to she only did this surgery in a particular hospital....IT turned out to be a catholic hospital. The first tried to get us to speak with an older woman who called herself the sister and said she was the chaplain...I explained we do not acknowledge women as chaplains, and we spoke to someone else (later to have to deal with the first woman.)They told us (my daughter and me) that they placed the remains in a place called Memorial Gardens (I think that's right)and they made it sound very beautiful and loving. After she signed the papers they handed me some information. My husband and son in law showed up and decided to go see this place...It was a small spot in the back of the hospital and the engraving on the stone was not right with us plus when I looked at the paper it gave a different view of what we had been told they collect tissue (babies) for two months, have the funeral home pick them up, do a cremation and the ashes are put out back of the hospital.
There was a clause that my son in law saw in the paper and thankfully, we were allowed to make other arrangements.y daughter had already been through enough without thinking of her unborn child being burned and dumped in the back of a catholic hospital. She was near the end of her first trimester and we decided to have a burial. The doctor said she didn't know what to do because it was the first time anyone had ever requested to bury the remains of such. We made the arrangements and even though the female who called herself the chaplain wasn't very pleased with it, she had to oblige us our request. It's not over yet because there is still the weeks of waiting before it can be turned over to the funeral home.
The little unborn John leaped in the womb at the presence of the unborn Jesus. What my daughter had in her womb was a baby. This may all sound very odd to everyone, but it was important to us and if anyone is every in a similar predicament please check the facts. Also I should have mentioned we spoke to the funeral home before the surgery and checked on state regulations and they were very helpful, whereas we might have not of known of our options.
