Returning to board after an absence

[mjr]

Good morning all!

It's Mary Jo from North Carolina. For various reasons I haven't posted on this board for a number of months, but I would like to pick up again. I am currently working full time, six days a week, as well as taking a college course in the evenings.

I have a prayer request for my husband. I have become what is termed a "gaming widow" as my husband spends most of his time playing video games such as Black Ops and Dragon Age where he becomes these virtual reality characters - - however, he isolates himself at home all of the time (he does not work and collects government disability) and these games have sort of become his "reality". This has been going on for a year now and progressively has become worse. He sleeps all morning until about 12PM because he has been up all through the night playing his game - - sometimes until 5AM. He carries out very few responsibilities in the home. Other Christians we know in our circle of friends are aware of how he is living but no one wants to become involved or, out of demonstrating true concern for his well being, confront him on this in any way. I have confronted him over and over but it falls on deaf ears. So, it is difficult for me in this situation.

I do appreciate your prayers for this and I will keep you updated as to how things are going.

I look forward to fellowship more regularly with you all as well!

[hilja2012]

Peace on to you in our Lord Jesus Christ.

Yes, games are very addictive,I USE TO play for hours on end It just takes your mind like you are the one in the game. you can tell person to stop, but they cannot if they do it alllllllllllll thhhhheeee tiiiimmmmeeee, it's too interesting. My husband could not get how I could play it soo much. It's a norther way satan steals people to himself christian and the wordily. he is the biggest thief there is..
It's very hard to stop, I stopped instantly Jesus Christ took my heart and when he freed me from lot of thing, that was one of them., it stopped and I lost interest all together. I would have bined the games, but I spent $$$$ Hubby's money on it so sold everything to cash converters. I will remember you & your husband in my prayers.

God Bless you and give you streght.

Love in Jesus Christ
Hilja

[benshelpmeet]

Dear Mary Jo,

So good to have you back with us, it's good to see your smiling face around here again.

I know what you mean about how people do not seem concerned or want to confront him. People do not care or have lost the desire to care for others. Matthew 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. We as christians are to care for one another, confront one another in christian love when needed, and pray much for one another.

The world seems to be falling apart couples, families, churches. It's shocking and sad to watch.

Good and evil have become so blurred that they have become one. Christians do not have discernment anymore. The godly christians have dropped their standard and have become confused, now touching the unclean thing and calling it ok. alot of christians would not see these games as necessarily bad. My dear grandmother who use to walk with God and be godly now condones her and her church going to Nashville (Music City) and seeing the Rockets she went with her Southern Baptist church in Hartford Ala. She said we are not to judge...we do not know their heart. She would not have said or done that years ago.

I know this must be hard on you, remember to pray much. Prayer really is a powerful tool.

I care and I will pray.

Love your sister in Christ ~Darlene~

[Sister Penny]

Hi Sister Mary Jo..
You know we will keep your hubby and you in our prayers. Many people get hooked on those online games, from Black Ops to Farmville..it is their life and they schedule activities around their Farmville crop harvest..I have family that does that.

Perhaps you could discuss this more with your husband and get him out of the house more and plan a garden together or anything to keep him away from the game..

Prayerfully,
Sister Penny

[mjr]

Good to hear from you ladies. I appreciate your insight into this difficult situation. Thank you for your continued prayers!

~ Mary Jo

[kscarle]

Hello my friend. I will certainly pray for you. This is indeed a serious issue and my dh and myself prayed about. It is sad that it is becoming a common problem in homes today. Maybe your husband can take up profitable hobby since he has computer knowledge. I have a friend in Oklahoma whose husband is also on disability and also games. She works a full time job. Instead of sitting around all day he learned how to do wood turning and sells online. He still does the gaming but only for a certain amount of time now. Prior he did not know anything about wood turning but taught himself in about dix months. I think he used youtube for some help.

Praying for you

[Andrea]

I am not able to get on here very often because of working also so I have just read your request. I will be praying for you.