Difficult family

[Brother Ben]

Do any of you have any family that are, well, you know really hard to deal with sometimes and it can be very upsetting? Well, we do and I just want to ask you dear brethren to pray for Darlene. She had to be involved in a lengthy unpleasant phone call and she gets so upset. I tried to help, but it was her near relative and there is not much you can do but endure. Darlene is a good girl, and was very pleasant, but she had to hang in there until the end. I know this might not be as major as some topics for prayer, but people problems are almost always far more difficult to deal with than, let's say, your carborator, or your vacuum cleaner blowing up! Thank you and God bless you for praying for my Sweety (and she really is a Sweety!)

Bro. Ben

[Andrea]

I totally understand how Sis. Darlene is feeling. I have to deal with my family on a daily basis. Sometimes it gets to the point where I don't even answer the phone. .. I guess I really don't have any advice .. Just know that I understand what you are going through and I will be praying for you that God will give you the strength and wisdom on how to deal with them and the comfort needed when you're finished.. *Hugs Sis. Darlene*.. You can always call me if want.. ;D..

Love in Christ,
Andrea

[carolejw]

I'm praying too. I guess we all have "difficult" people in our lives. Hang in there Sis. Darlene.
Carole

[nightingale]

Yes, I know what you are going through...I have been hurt and in tears many times...but now I pray before my encounter with family and I refuse to be drawn into a heated argument...there has been times that I will be praying while standing there being yapped at, and I pray the Lord will give me the right words or keep my mouth shut...Learn to breathe in and breathe out slowly and pray...I will be thinking of you Darlene...and I have to agree with Preacher Ben, you are a SWEETY ;D
Love and hugs...Sis Debbie

[Sister Penny]

Dear Brother Ben,
I know how she feels...when you choose to live for the Lord and do things, "differently" there is always some family...and some friends who will try to humiliate you and knock you down..

I will keep your "sweety" in my prayers.
God bless,
Penny

[Brother Randy]

I heard it said once that God puts difficult people in a Christians life as sandpaper to rub down the ruff edges we have. I know it takes extra grace at times to deal with people , especially when it is family. In my family we pretty much know how every one stands. There are things we are not invited to because they know we will not come. But it still does not stop me from saying what I believe is right to them when need be.

I wonder at times if Satan does not use our unsaved families to try and trip us up. To prove to them that we really aren't any different then they are. Praise be to God when we can stand by and take what they dish out to us.

I do pray for dear sister Darlene that she will not let it bother her too much.

Bro Randy

[Deleted]

I have an Uncle that always gives me a hard time - really hard. He uses really bad language towards me and everything. He 'picks' a lot whenever I am around him. I finally found out why. Last summer he was really going at it one day. I kept my cool the whole time and was pleasant to him. He had a (kind of sarcastic) smile on his face, and was doing all he could to get me mad (he was drunk too). It did not work. A few days after that my mom said my cousin asked her why Uncle Donald was always picking on Joanne (me). Mom said she just talked to Donald and he said it just bugs him that I do not get upset! He always wondered why I was so calm and cool and he was trying to get me to argue or fight back like the rest of the family but I never do. He asked my mom why she thought that was and she said "it must be because she has the Lord" ;D None of my mom's side are Christian - they had a Catholic background, but none 'practice' it.
I was glad to hear that they actually notice. My mom's side is very accepting of my choice to follow God - they do pick on me at times, but for the most part it's friendly (except my Uncle Donald). My dad thinks I'm too extreme though. That's ok. I continue to pray for them all. My Christian in-laws even pick on me because my daughter and I wear long skirts or dresses all the time, and we only listen to acappella (sp) hymns on cd. Some of their children are always saying we are "weird" - makes me wonder what the parents say about us behind closed doors. They all think I am too extreme ... It's funny how I used to be totally opposite and they picked on me for my ungodly ways. Now they pick on me for my godly ways!! Go figure.
I don't know why I shared that ... I guess to say that I know it's hard to deal with difficult family members. But, you will be rewarded for your patience and love and kindness towards them. I think even if they do not admit it, they cannot help but notice your gentle spirit and peace. In fact, like my Uncle, I think it's just hard for them to grasp how you could have such peace even towards blunt hostility. They'll understand someday - even if they wont admit it.

[benshelpmeet]

Dear Ones,

Thank you for your kind words and for praying for me. Please continue to pray for my sad heart. God is good to comfort me and get me through. I just worry about my poor Nana.

My Nana has gone insane. She talked for 96 min...negitive about everyone under the sun. Everything she said was twisted most was not true. I do not know what to do...

She is supposed to move here to our house the end of this year so I can take care of her until she dies, she has alot of health problems. After all this...I cannot move her here. My family cannot deal with that kind of off the wall, ungodly behavior. I have small children, not to mention my teens do not want to hear such filth.

I feel so bad...so guilty. Someone needs to take care of her, but she cannot come live in our home. I was willing and ready to take on the responsibility of taking care of her, and her many health needs in my home, and caring for her until she dies, but no one needs to hear the vile imaginations that she congers up in her mind and feels free to tell others without shame or remorse. I think she watches too much TV.

I know the Lord will work this all out for ''all'' our good.

Please pray for my precious Nana.

~ sister Darlene ~

[prv31wife]

Sister Darlene,
I'm sorry you are going through this. I know what it's like to have difficult family members. I think we all have them. Please know that I will be praying for you and your Nana.

[benshelpmeet]

Dear Brethren,

Please continue to pray for my precious Nana. I called my mother she has said she can move to her town and live in an assisted living apt. She will have her own efficiency apt and a nurse is on the property, available if needed. My mama is still looking into it.

My mama cannot take her because her home is in bad shape, lots of work needed and no where for my Nana. Their is no bathroom down stairs and Nana can't handle the stairs. Also mama has a live in boyfriend for the last 23 years, he listens to loud rock in roll and smokes pot. No place for Nana.

Everybody tells me Nana is my mothers responsibility not mine, but she helped raise me when my mama didn't care and had her own life to live, so she ( my Nana) is very special to me, and I do feel responsible for her wellbeing.

Please pray for me this is very hard for me to except. I wanted to make her last days on earth pleasant and I wanted my children to know the joy and blessing of taking care of your own. But my grandmother says, the most off the wall wicked things. I'm broken hearted over this, but I have given it to the Lord and I'm trusting Him to do what is best for my grandmother.

Thank you for caring and thank you for your prayers!

Love, ~ sister Darlene ~

[Sister Penny]

Dear Sister Darlene,
I am so sorry that you Gram has not gotten to a full recovery just yet, but we are keeping her and you and your family close in our prayers.

I will also be praying for your Mom's salvation and that the Lord gives her a wake up call there...

I have many unsaved in my family, and I fully agree...they know which nerve to push on to get a reaction at times...

Trusting you have a good weekend!
Love,
Sister Penny