Please Pray for my Mama!

[benshelpmeet]

Please pray for my mama.

We just got news this morning that my mama who lives in Florida has had a stroke , I am her only child. She did not list my name, so the hospital will not release any information to me.

I called mama on her birthday June 4th (65 years old) to wish her a happy birthday (we sang Happy Birthday to her).

We talked a while, we had a pleasant talk, then she ended up talking rudely to me, saying mean things about Ben, my mother and her mother hate men, and talk ugly about them, they make derogatory statements, and make up lies or stretch truth...thus making a lie. They are very bitter women and cling to the past and the lies they have fabricated, both claimed to be saved.

We did not get off the phone on a good note, it was sad, and very upsetting to me, I had to deal with all that emotional upset while my dear friend was visiting.

I have not been feeling well, and Bro Ben is worried,he does not want me to get too upset over my mother. Please keep me in much prayer as well as my mother.

Thank you for praying, ~ sister Darlene ~

[theresalynn]

Darlene,
I have prayed for you and your mama. I, too, have a mother who can be very hateful. She is a widow, and I try hard to understand how she is lonely, but it is hard sometimes. I pray that your heart will be healed, and your mother both physically and emotionally healed.
May God bless you,
theresalynn

[randal]

Darlene,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I'm sure the burden is great.

Isaiah 41:10 "Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness."

I pray that God will give you both strength as you go through this trial.

Randy

[Deleted]

Sister Darlene: I know it is very painful when mothers do this to their children. It seems to me though that her outburst and mean language was a warning sign of her impending stroke. It's very common for "meanness" to be a stroke warning. It has to do with elevated blood pressure.

Pray for her and we will pray with you. God honors those who honor Him.

Jun 16, 2009 12:15:19 GMT -5 benshelpmeet said:

Please pray for my mama.

We just got news this morning that my mama who lives in Florida has had a stroke , I am her only child. She did not list my name, so the hospital will not release any information to me.

I called mama on her birthday June 4th (65 years old) to wish her a happy birthday (we sang Happy Birthday to her).

We talked a while, we had a pleasant talk, then she ended up talking rudely to me, saying mean things about Ben, my mother and her mother hate men, and talk ugly about them, they make derogatory statements, and make up lies or stretch truth...thus making a lie. They are very bitter women and cling to the past and the lies they have fabricated, both claimed to be saved.

We did not get off the phone on a good note, it was sad, and very upsetting to me, I had to deal with all that emotional upset while my dear friend was visiting.

I have not been feeling well, and Bro Ben is worried,he does not want me to get too upset over my mother. Please keep me in much prayer as well as my mother.

Thank you for praying, ~ sister Darlene ~

[lisa]

Sister Darlene
I am so sorry to hear about this situation. I will definitely keep you and your mama in my prayers. Love and prayers. Lisa

[nightingale]

Dear Sister Darlene...
I am so sorry to hear about your mama...I will be in prayer for her and you as well...I know how emotionally upsetting it is when you have words with the ones you love.
I am so glad you are back online. I missed you terribly. I will be going back to Seattle on Thursday, so I won't be posting through the weekend. Going over to see my sister again, and we will also be going to the big home school curriculum fair in Puyallup, but I will be thinking of you and praying.
I love you dear sister
Love sis Debbie

[Brother Ben]

I'm praying for Mama and you, my little Sweety.

Ben

[BillysWife]

So sorry to hear about your Mama! Will be praying much! ((hugs))

[benshelpmeet]

Mama had a heart attack and a stroke, her right side is having trouble, her right side of her face s sagging, and she can hardly talk, she has trouble walking. They are changing her medicine again, but they are keeping her on Cumedin.

Today mama is being transported to a rehab for three days, then she goes home. Her house is huge, hot , and two story. She is worried about having to go home, and live, and function in her situation, she ha to walk upstairs to sleep and use the bathroom, the kitchen is downstairs, her boyfriend is lazy (a nice guy but lazy) he does not do much. She does not want to sell her home and move, she has been there for many many long years. Her boyfriend of 26 years lives there with her, and is there to help her, she will not marry him. She will not make him move out either. Her situation is not good.

She has been trying to act nice, her attitude changed when they put her on meds (Cumedin, and anti depressants ''she told the doctor she was not depressed'' , and others.) She has been on meds for three years, and has been hospitalized every year three years in a row, and is still paying off her hospital and 911 bills. She never had a heart attack or stroke until she started taking medications. Now she is afraid to stop taking them, because the doctors put fear in her heart, she tells me that she knows the meds are bad for her and causing these strokes. Catch 22.

This is going to sound pitiful, but it is the truth and I have excepted it and let the Lord be my strength.

Psa 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

I am 43 years old and I have never felt the love of a mother, and will probably go to my grave not ever knowing the love of a mother toward me. It hurts when I think about it, but I just give it to the Lord and He i my comfort.

I get much joy, and healing out of mothering my 8 children. I try to be the mother I've always needed and still need. I try to be a strength and encouragement to my mother.

I try to be a godly example, and a friend, but I do not allow her to feed me lies or talk unkind about my husband. My husband is not perfect, but he is a good man, and a faithful provider, (even with his crippling arthritis condition,) he is a good father, and a christian man, he is good to me, and he has always treated my mother, and her mother with much honor, and respect, they really have no reason to talk bad about him.

Please pray for my dear mama, she is the only mother I have, I am her only child.

Pray for the Lord to give me peace in my soul during this hard time. I need to go to her, but all we have is a 1 ton 15 passenger van, a great big gas hog , we have not got the gas money to go. I need a small car, maybe catch a ride with someone going to Florida on vacation, and get a ride back (we do not know of anyone going, my neighbors just got back from Florida. )

She has always despised our marriage, and the fact I have so many children. She probably thinks I could do more for her if I was not so tied down with my family. She makes sarcastic remarks to me about my family. She is always grieved when I get pregnant, and verbalizes it to me . If I didn't have a family, I'd have to work to survive, and I would still be tied to something..(my job and earthly bills.) She does not see reality, she is selfish, caught up in her world, not understanding of others.

enough of all that...

Please just pray, and thank you so much for taking the time to pray for my mama.

Love, ~ sister Darlene ~

[kjvsteve]

Praying hard.

It does grieve me to hear these things, but it is at these times we need to take comfort in prayer.

God may allow such affliction to visit us today - but tomorrow we find peace and rest.


Steve

[Donna]

Praying for you and your momma
Donna

[benshelpmeet]

Mama is not well the rehab is trying to send her home on Friday...tomarrow! Her home situation is not good...

Quote: Her house is huge, hot , and two story. She is worried about having to go home, and live, and function in her situation, she has to walk upstairs to sleep and use the bathroom, the kitchen is downstairs.

She also wants her leach of a boyfriend gone, shes made bad decisions letting this man live with her all these years, she felt sorry for him. He was suppose to be renting a room, but doesn't give her any money. He even took money (60.00) out of her purse and spent it while she was in the hospital and rehab the past week. He's a bum. Pray she can get him out for good. She doesn't think she has any legal rights.

Please pray for my Mama.

~ sister Darlene ~

[Donna]

I don't know if this applies to rehab.....but if you mom is on Medicare she has the right to appeal her release ....at least from inpatient hospital

They have to be contacted before you leave...

1 800 362-2320

Hope this helps
Donna

[lisa]

I am praying for you and your dear mother. Is she a christian? If not I will be praying for her to come to know the Lord as her Saviour. Blessings Lisa

[benshelpmeet]

Thank you sister Donna for your advice , she did appeal it and they gave her a few more days.

Mama went home a week ago Sunday, she seems to be doing ok.

Se went to her doctor and he said it was his fault all this happened, because he did not monitor her Cumidin good enough. He gave her dentist the go ahead to operate and mama lost a whole lot of blood the dentist told her not to over react, because it was normal. Mama had told the Dentist that she needed to be off the Cumidin for 3 days before a surgery, but he called her Doctor and went ahead anyway.

The Dentists bamboozled her into getting the surgery's started to fix her many bad teeth, he even talked her into a 9,000 plan, she only gets 569.00 a month from Social Security to live on.

Her regular Doctor said it was his fault, but she owes all the bills...911, almost 1 weeks stay at the hospital,( $100.00 a day ), and over a weeks stay at the Rehab (who knows what they charge : He did this to her before with her medication, ending her up in the hospital.

She is scared to get off Cumidin, she says she needs it for blood clots. Her arteries are clean and clear and her heart is strong. My Nana her mama has blood clots and all they have her on is baby aspirin.

I feel so bad for my Mama.

Sister Lisa,

I do not know if she is saved, she does not act like it at times. She has started her snide remarks again, I'm going to have to pull back away from her for my health sake, and the safety of our unborn child, which I probably will not tell her about, because it will cause her to say real ugly unkind things to me. She is not for me having children, this has been going on ever since I had my third child. Now were having our 9th. I'm just tired of the upset. Were happy about our baby, and well keep our blessing to ourselves. Our friends who love the Lord, and love the family, are happy for us. And I am Thankful!

Please continue to pray for my Mama physically and spiritually.

Thank you!