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Post by jka on Nov 29, 2006 11:03:47 GMT -5
I am interested in natural childbirth and I am aware that it is a decision that has to be made before you have the child. My husband is concerned that I wouldn't get proper medical attention if I were to have a natural birth and he thinks it will be too much for me. Has any of the ladies here had a natural birth and can tell me anything about it?
Katy-Anne
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Rejoiceevermore
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Post by Rejoiceevermore on Nov 29, 2006 17:09:28 GMT -5
Natural Chilbirth is a wonderful thing. I gave birth to my son at home and he is 9 month old now. Natural birth is just like brestfeeding with no suppliments just like what God ment it to be. I incouraged my sister in law to have home birth and she did she gave birth to a healthy baby 3 months ago. My brother didn't want to have a homebirth, but then was convinced it's the best thing. My friend is going to have a home birth in one month and she is very excited about it. It is very important to find a good, christian midwife. You need to do a little research. Look on the internet, yellow pages, ask some ladies in church. There are a lot of weird midwifes out there that are involved in dark deeds you need to be careful about it. Don't go against your husband will if he is scared doesn't want you to have a natural birth try to find some ladies who have done it and talk to them and their husbands. We took some birthing classes that were specifically for the mothers who wanted to do a natural birth it was fun and prepared us for the birth. My husband felt like he was a pro. : ). Also some of my friends did a natural birth with a midwife in the Hospital. Maybe you can look in to that also.
Pray and ask God for wisdom.
God bless you.
Amy
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Post by jka on Nov 30, 2006 7:46:19 GMT -5
He has said he might allow the natural birth but it will NOT be at home because he doesn't think that is wise...I guess ya win some and lose some. He thinks it is stupid to do it at home when I might need a doctor or something.
Katy-Anne
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Post by Rejoiceevermore on Nov 30, 2006 13:10:58 GMT -5
Ofcourse anything can go wrong. Childbirth is not an easy thing to do but we trust the Lord like with everything else and hope that He who let us get pregnant will also help us to go through it all. If your husband doesn't want to have home birth just pray don't argue with him and Lord will change his heart. He is your husband and you are under his leadership. Sometimes God reveals to our husbands more then to us. Remember the chain of commend: God then Jesus Christ then husband then wife and then children. All things happen according to how God planned not how we want it. In Christ, Amy
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Post by Tammy on Dec 6, 2006 1:47:04 GMT -5
We have had five natural births, three with midwives, and the last two have been at home, "unassisted" births. (My husband would beg to differ with that term - He assisted me! He is the best.) I have seen a few births in hospitals, and was displeased with all the unnecessary intervention there, and pressure to do things you didn't plan to do. We decided hospitals are great for emergencies, but most births are not emergencies and do not need hospital services. When we were expecting our first, I heard about a midwife in my area, and wondered if her assistance would help me have a more natural birth with less intervention. My husband was all for it, and we started preparing... Do as much reading as you can to educate yourself. We wanted to be prepared for anything, and I found that knowing what was going on during labor, helped me to deal with the labor pains and, in the end, come out willing to have another baby in the future, LOL. You can do a search online to find a midwife, like on this site: www.midwife.org/find.cfm Then see if God opens the doors for this. I agree with Amy, don't go against your husband's judgment! See if he would be willing to meet a midwife or two, or talk to another man whose wife went to a midwife. Hope things go well for you! It's all in God's hands Tammy
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Post by jka on Dec 6, 2006 9:04:11 GMT -5
I wouldn't dream of going against my husband, I just want to present some facts to him and he will make a final decision. He is good like that, if we disagree if I can show him facts he will look.
Katy-Anne
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Post by Tammy on Dec 7, 2006 0:22:27 GMT -5
Oh, I forgot to mention that many midwives will attend your birth in a hospital setting. My first midwife was also an R.N., and she had close ties with a hospital nearby. If there had been a reason to go there, we were only a few minutes away. Thank the Lord we didn't need it, but it did provide a little more assurance to me and Daniel for our first birth, and most of all assurance for our parents who were thinking, "WHAT are you two DOING??"
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Post by mom2fourblessings on Dec 7, 2006 11:54:30 GMT -5
Hi, I am not here much but saw this message and just thought I would reply. I have 4 children all were natural births, two in a hospital, 2 in a birth center with midwives. I am not sure about in your area but here my midwives deliver at hospitals and the birthcenter.. They are certified nurse midwives with masters degrees in nursing and midwifery studies. They are certified to do everything but c-sections.. With mine if you choose to deliver at a hospital because you feel safer there then you have the option for drugs or epidurals should you change your mind.. and decide you can't do natural. Also with my last two I received more testing and better care than I did with doctors since I was choosing to birth naturally and not in a hospital they had to make sure everything was perfect, so I actually received much MUCH better care than with the first two hospital doctor attended births. Also my midwives stayed with me the entire time and did not just show up to catch.. ) They prayed with me, comforted me and helped my husband through the whole thing. My husband was totally against a non hospital birth at first but after visiting the center and meeting the midwives he was a little more comfortable with it.. also the birth center was only 2 miles from the hospital and if any problems arise they transfer you. Anyway he was still a bit uncomfortable but after my daughter was born and he saw the difference in the way the birth went and the way I was treated v/s the hospital births he became their biggest advocate.. He tells ABSOLUTELY everyone that they should only use midwives now, whether in a hospital or birth center.. he now prefers the birth center, but knows that many are uncomfortable with it especially for a first birth.. but he is a TRUE advocate of midwives, over doctors.. mainly because they are women helping women, and they are there the entire time unless you ask them to leave or they just step out for a break.. Now I am sure this may not be true with all birth centers, but it was for mine. Also, if he would I would suggest watching the movie "Gentle Birth Choices" and there are some others, you can get them off amazon.com for like 2 or 3 dollars, they show the difference between natural childbirth and they show natural in hospitals, homes, birth centers etc.. My opinion is that with a first birth I would try for natural in a hospital with a good midwife.. since if it is a first you do not know how your body will labor or what the pain tolerance would be.. at least if you are in a hospital you have other options.. and would probably make your husband feel much better, and that is important that both of you are comfortable with the decision.. even if you go with a doctor in a hospital you can choose not to have any medications or interventions.. There are tons of sites on the web that tell the benefits and TONS of movies that show and tell the benefits.. Your local library may have some and if you search amazon for natural childbirth you will find lots of books an movies.. However in the end the goal is to deliver a healthy baby with a healthy mother, no matter how you choose to do it.. You should do whatever feels best for you and your husband, no two babies are the same and no two births are the same and no matter how you do it, take pride and be comfortable in what you are doing, because in the end it does not matter at all if you have a c-section, natural or medicated, what matters is that precious, little soul that you will hold in your arms, nurture, care for and raise.. I myself would never go anyway but natural, even though about 15 mintues before birth with everyone of mine, I have changed my mind and told them I didn't want to do it anymore, I was leaving, knock me out, etc..LOL ;o) but that was in the throws of the pain.. so you know you might say anything... I love the way natural birth made me feel and I LOVED being able to get up 15 minutes later and shower and go home at the 6 hour mark.. However, Like I said only you and your husband can decide what is right for you and in the end you will reach the same goal, no matter how you do it.. Best wishes. Praying for a healthy, safe pregnancy and delivery for you.. In Christ's Love, Heather
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