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Post by glenda on Dec 21, 2005 18:23:46 GMT -5
I have a question to all you brother and sisters. What do you do with gifts that are given to your children that well are not right? For example Harry Potter anything, and power rangers just for a example. These are not things we allow or would ever allow our children to play with or even have however there are those out there that seem to want to give our children these gifts year after year even after we have told them that we do not do this or that... Any help would be appricated...
glenda
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Post by ep210 on Dec 21, 2005 18:28:52 GMT -5
Dear Sister, Last year an uncle of mine who we never see bought my daughter a Bratz doll.   My husband and I used it as a teaching toll on what a lady does not look like and then she and papa burned the doll together. It was a great lesson for her. I have found you can talk to family until you are blue in the face and yet they never get what you are trying to teach the children. We have just taken what we deem inappropriate teach the children a lesson and either burn it or donate it. I would never donate something like a bratz doll but that same year each of our boys was given a box with 50 hot wheels cars. With three boys that was 144 to many cars. They each picked out the two they licked best and gave the rest to the church for VBS prizes. They learned a lesson in giving. Hope this helps. In His Keeping, Michelle |
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Post by glenda on Dec 22, 2005 8:45:11 GMT -5
Thanks so much for your ideas.. I know that with things like harry potter I just do not even want them in the house.. I mean for me i can not understnad why anyone would even think of giveing this to us. Another problem we have is clothes. Now we have wore dresses for years.. And only dresses.. Why in the world would my mother in law give my girls pants (jeans) and to top it off as if the jeans is not the bad part but she likes to give them the jeans that come way down on there hips.. I do not think so... And we have done the whole thing of taking the gifts back to the store and exchangeing them for something we need and that just gets war war three started... We have even been told we buy these for the kids we expect for the kids to get them. period..... I am at a loss.....This happens every birthday, christmas, halloween, easter, you name it.... Any other help or advice would be apracated.. Thanks all..
glenda
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Post by benshelpmeet on Dec 22, 2005 13:57:11 GMT -5
Bless your heart Glenda, I know how frustrating that can be.  To answer your question... What do you do with gifts that are given to your children that well are not right? For example Harry Potter anything, and power rangers just for a example. These are not things we allow or would ever allow our children to play with or even have however there are those out there that seem to want to give our children these gifts year after year even after we have told them that we do not do this or that... Any help would be appricated...
We would promptly through it away or return it and get something else.  If they do not like the decision we make for our children,thats not our problem it is theirs. We can not change the way others think and live we are accountable for ourselves and our family the Lord has entrusted into our care. We have done this for years and the Lord has protected and blessed our family because of our decision and stand for the Lord. 1. Our children have been spared the ungodly influence of ''ungodly'' toys and books. 2. Our family members do not give ungodly, trendy, or worldly things to our children anymore ( they send money and let us choose ) And if they do give a questionable gift our stand and reaction is the same as it has been from the beginning. We are sweet about it, but we do not allow such toys, books, or entertainment in our home. As we have honored God He has blessed. It's not always been easy, but it has always been the right choice. I would promptly remove any questionable clothing items out of my home or property, you would not want your girls to ever for any reason put on those pants or other ungodly clothing. Also get rid of (right away!) any ungodly books or toys. I would not let them look at them and then teach why they are bad, I would just tell why they are ungodly and not for Gods children, using the name of the item, but not letting them look at the item, then I would let them see me destroy it. Those Brat dolls are ungodly to even look at ( we do not let our precious children even look at immodest people in the store, we get them to turn their heads ) , Harry Potter is likewise ungodly, dark, and evil, ( When at Wal Mart we get our children to turn their head and not even behold something evil, wicked, and ungodly, no matter what the object or person. ) Our children have done this for so long it practically comes natural to them. We do not act weird or rude we just do not let them look at ungodly things. I hope this has been helpful. Love your sister and friend, ~ Darlene ~ I will pray for you and your precious family during this frustrating time of year. May the Lord bless your precious family. |
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Post by Brother Ben on Dec 22, 2005 15:39:42 GMT -5
Once, much to our suprise, an aunt of the children, very liberal, left-wing, commie, feminist, etc., gave the children a box of arts and crafts and little innocent trinkets. We were shocked! Of all the relatives, she got the message. Remember that Darlene? So, there is hope. Be consistent, and sweet, some will adapt their giving, or not give at all. That's o.k., God takes care of His own.
Bro. Ben
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Post by glenda on Dec 22, 2005 16:12:48 GMT -5
thank you all.. I have hope.. God is good....
glenda
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Post by sojourner on Dec 23, 2005 0:46:33 GMT -5
Thankfully you are not receiving those types of gifts from the folks you go to church with...that would really be a sad testimony.
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Post by glenda on Dec 23, 2005 9:39:33 GMT -5
this is true..
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Post by pastorsmate on Dec 23, 2005 9:41:37 GMT -5
Yes amen, your children do not need to be in contact with anything that is ungodly, you know when they train bank Tellers they never use the counterfeit money to train the to see how it feel or handles, it is always using the proper money and then when they feel or touch a counterfeit they KNOW the difference, when our heads and minds are filled with Godly things, then we know what is not.. Just my input..
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Post by taximom1999 on Dec 23, 2005 12:57:19 GMT -5
I am in a SPIRITUALY split home. My standards on what I think is apporiate are the extreme oppisate of my husbands. But through prayer and a little gentle presausion (ok a lot of nagging on my part) my husband has come to my way of thinking a little. This year we didn't buy our one and only daughter jeans like we did the boys but we got her a dress although it isn't as modest as I would like it is a longer dress than he would have normally picked out for her.
In years past I have been the Christmas joke. I don't like santa clause and made that very clear to family members and every year I refused gifts marked from "Santa". I told my family no harry potter, guns or war games and every year guns and war toys are what my boys got I couldn't get rid of them because hubby sees no problem with them. They didn't give my kids harry potter but let them read and watch the books behind my back telling the kids shhhhhhh don't tell your mom I was so mad when I found out.
Hurt and dismaded by the dilibert actions of my family and my husband ill reguard for me his wife I really dread the Christmas season it isn't joyous for me I don't like to celebrate it anymore. I continue to lift them up and someday they will be held accountable for their actions I will not compromise my Christain beliefs for the sake of Christmas and let my hurt be known.
Prayerfully Yours
Debbi
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Post by bereanman on Dec 23, 2005 13:10:10 GMT -5
Amen, sis. Debbi. The proof of the pagan-ness and evil of xmas is the pain and hurt it cause the brethren and their families who just want to get closer to God and be as pure as possible.
Is God the author of confusion???
You stay strong inthe Lord, sister, and know that He sees your heart and your effort and also know that you are not alone. We are praying for you.
Br. Tony
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My husband and I used it as a teaching toll on what a lady does not look like and then she and papa burned the doll together. It was a great lesson for her. I have found you can talk to family until you are blue in the face and yet they never get what you are trying to teach the children. We have just taken what we deem inappropriate teach the children a lesson and either burn it or donate it. I would never donate something like a bratz doll but that same year each of our boys was given a box with 50 hot wheels cars. With three boys that was 144 to many cars. They each picked out the two they licked best and gave the rest to the church for VBS prizes. They learned a lesson in giving.
If they do not like the decision we make for our children,thats not our problem it is theirs. We can not change the way others think and live we are accountable for ourselves and our family the Lord has entrusted into our care. 
