There's a new sister on board!

[nhisgrp]

It is so lovely to have found you guys!

I will have to make this a short intro as to how I ended up at your door because I have a busy day. I'll fill you in on my whole salvation testimony tomorrow on my day of rest.

My name is Katie I live in Minnesota. I belong to a Baptist Church. I have quite a shady past but I am now living for the Lord and am forgiven. I have grown by leaps and bounds but I have been feeling more and more like and outsider to people the closer I get to God. I expected to be ridiculed by the natural men in the world but never did it cross my mind that it would be my own brothers and sisters in Christ that would hurt me the most. It seems with every new step I take toward obedience in my life the more I am labled with things like legalistic, judgemental, and pharisee.

The most recent hurdle has been this modesty issue. It all started when the Lord convicted me about checking to see if my back side looked ok in my pants. I thought, "why on earth are you making sure your back side looks appealing!!!? That is appauling!!!" For one thing, I am a married woman and it shouldn't matter to anyone but my husband how my back side looks. Second, even if I wasn't married, the Bible says that any man who looks with lust commits adultery. So was that what I wanted? to make men sin? I kept thinking about the verse in the Bible that says if your right hand offends, cut it off, and so I decided to cut off pants. (which got me more name calling of course)

After this I decided to really study modesty in the Bible and make sure I did it right this time. Now, I had read 1 Corinthians 11 many times but never very carfully and I had always just thought that my hair should be long. When I do my Bible studies I usually study the opposite thing as well and it seems to helt me greatly. Like when I studied love I also studied hate. I found I could get a much deeper understanding if I can establish what love is not. So a part of my modesty studie was to look up nakedness. That lead me to Isaiah 46, I don't remember the exact wording but uncovered hair was inlcuded in the naked discription. This made me more closely examine 1 Corinthians 11 and I decided to start covering my head.

It has been a real eye opener. The first day I was really aware of how often I spoke to my husband in a belittling mannor. I was treating him just like one of my children a lot of the time. I have prayed for God to hold my tounge and help me to be the wife He designed me to be.

I never imagined that my study into modesty would have opened my eyes to something like this. The Lord truely does work in mysterious ways.

I haven't said anything to anyone about it. I just started wearing a scarf on my head. I got a few weird looks when I went to church on Wed. and I'm sure I will get comments when they realize that it is here to stay. I have to admitt that I am nervous as to what will happen.

I have been reading your pages for the last few days and have been dying to fellowship with you! I have absolutley no one but the Lord to talk to about the changes in my life. Not that I think I need more than that. He has been the best friend a girl could have but I can't help but long for a person to talk to.

My husband isn't saved and desires me to work outside the home and today is one of those days so I won't be able to post much today but there are already several topics I have read and want to talk about with you.

Praise God for you!

[George]

Sister, thank you for your testimony. The world needs a whole lot more people, both men and women, who will do what is necessary to follow God's Word.

Something you said caught my eye and I felt I needed to address it:

It has been a real eye opener. The first day I was really aware of how often I spoke to my husband in a belittling mannor. I was treating him just like one of my children a lot of the time.

What I have read here is that you speak to your children in a belittling manner. Is that the correct understanding of what you have written? If it is I am somewhat taken aback. My word, why would you want to speak to your children in such a way? Not only that but if you speak to anyone in that manner, no matter what your desires are toward your husband, you WILL speak to him in that same manner at some point.

You see, our sin DOES hurt those around us no matter what we think. Not only that but the ones we hurt the most are usually those who are closest to us. Our spouses and our children will bear the brunt of it.

I pray I am wrong and something was written that is not exactly correct. May I tell you something? If you do speak to your children in a belittling manner such as what I have read in your message you must not be surprised when you find them speaking to others in exactly the same way!

In Christ,
George

[nhisgrp]

Oh no no no I do not do that. I scold my children when they are bad which to them is not belittling but to scold my husband as if he is a child is belittling to him.

You see what I meant now?

[nightingale]

Welcome Katie...I read your post, thank you...You will love it here...I will be looking forward to hearing more from you...Have a wonderful day........Sis Debbie

[George]

Thank you for clarifying that. Now it is quite a bit more clear since it is worded much differently than the first time.

IN Christ,
George

[dragonfly]

I understood what you meant and I know exactally what you mean about how wearing a cover makes you so much aware of other things, for me it is even the look on my face when I scold my children.. The Lord is doing a mighty work on you ! Praise God.. I am so excied to have you here.. I am D'Ann, married with 4 children and a homeschooling mom.

[Brother Ben]

Welcome aboard Katie. I hope you enjoy your time here and get a blessing. Thank you for your posts.

Bro. Ben

[Andrea]

Welcome aboard, Sis. Nice to meet you! My name is Andrea, married to Sam for almost 15 years now. We have two children, a daughter that just turned 14 and a son that will be 10 next Tuesday. We live in Southern Ohio where we are right now trying to dig our way out of all the ice and snow we've encountered! ;D