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Post by arabianlights on Sept 30, 2006 15:03:26 GMT -5
My husband and myself have been pursueing adoption through the state foster system for about 9 months now. We are just about finished with everything and ready for a child to be placed in our home. I request your prayers that God would continue to guide us, not only to the child/children that God has in mind for us, but also that he would confirm in our hearts again (as he did when we began this process) whether this is His will for us. It has been hard for many of our family members to accept the idea of us adopting before having our biological children. We know there may be many challenges. We just want to do God's will. I also request prayer for courage as I will be wearing a headcovering to church for the second time this Sunday, and I must admit that I'm a little trepidatious... Thanks so much, - Evie
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Post by Andrea on Sept 30, 2006 15:26:24 GMT -5
I will be praying for you all, Sister. We have looked into adopting from the fostering system here in Ohio, but as of now, The Lord has not opened the doors for us to even start the process.
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Post by Rejoiceevermore on Oct 9, 2006 23:07:08 GMT -5
Hi Evie,
We would love to adopt a child/children some day after we had all of our own children. We worked at childrens home for a year and I also used to work for adoption agency and I would encourage everyone to adopt. These poor children need parents who can truly love them. I do think adoption should be considered after you had your own children. Please pray about it. Adopted child is not your own child. Yes you can give him all your love, but it's still not the same. I have my own child he is almost 8 mo. old and I can say that it's so different to hold your own baby that you carried for 9 months and then gave birth and then nurse him for a year or so. Mother needs to have lots of wisdom and love and it is something that only God can give. May the Lord bless you as you make this serious decision. A child will reflect his mother who carried him for 9 months if she was a drug atic or devil worshipper, or rock n' roll lover and so on it may be that a child be born with some problems that will require lots of attention and experience and if you never had experience it might be hard. I hope I'm not scaring you it's just reality. Talk to your husband and pray together. May God give you peace.
Amy
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Post by benshelpmeet on Oct 10, 2006 8:16:09 GMT -5
Dearest Evie,
We have thought about adopting before too. It is an exciting thoughts and very needful. But I agree with sister Amy, she is so right, you need to make sure it is the Lords will for you. What a big life discussion. It is a ministry of sorts, ministering to the needs of a rejected, unwanted child and all the handed down sins of the father and mother. Medical problems, spiritual problems, emotional problems, etc... You have to be prepared and committed and you have to think of your own future seed you must raise for the Lord. I think adoption should be for strong mature christians who cannot have children, or those who can handle the challenge. You might not get a difficult situation child but then again you might. The child might look normal and act normal and be sweet at first and then one day things start happening that you do not understand. Spiritual problems and mental?emotional struggles...who knows what. God knows and He can guide your path, just make sure it's His will.
How exciting about your covering! I will pray for you, I know it can be a challenge to stand for truth even with our mouth shut and our hearts right, still people are confused and often attack that which they do not understand.
Love your sister and friend, ~ Darlene ~
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Post by coveredwife on Oct 10, 2006 11:57:14 GMT -5
I have to congradulate you on your adoption process. I believe adoption is just as much a gift from God as our own children. Remember, God will not give you anything you can not handle with his help. If it were not for the laws of adoption, Christ would not have been a son of David in the litteral sence. He was Joseph's son in everyway but his blood. Don't be discouraged from your wealth of happiness. I believe God will bless you tremendously, even those of us who have birthed our own children sometimes have difficulty in their rebellion, They are afterall children and should be loved and GUIDED to the ways of Christ and Love.
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Post by Brother Ben on Oct 10, 2006 12:59:04 GMT -5
Sister Evie, I would like to comment on a statement you made:
We will continue to pray for you in regards to this adoption process. Yes, though it can be a joy to adopt a child, all things we do need to be bathed in prayer and we need to submit ourselves to the will of the Lord.
The cousel Sister Amy gave above is sage advice. The Whitecottons (Amy and her godly husband Timothy,) were in our home and we were so totally blessed with their wisdom in regard to children and adoption seeing as they worked for quite some time in a childrens home.
Darlene and I know many people who have adopted children while on the mission field, and they have had their eyes openned. Seek to know all you can know about a child before signing the papers and then fast and pray for God's final o.k.
Things like marriage, moving, buying a house, sending your children somewhere out of your control, are to be done with a godly measure of caution. The Lord is a loving Father and He can and will guide the obedient hearing ear.
May the Lord bless you and your husband as you make this decision.
For Christ and souls, Bro. Ben
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Post by arabianlights on Oct 10, 2006 13:20:15 GMT -5
Thank you all for your advice, encouragement and prayers. We need all of them. I am currently at peace before God. We know that He is in control. We don't want to follow our own paths and we know that He is able to make His will plain by closing doors or speaking to our hearts. We will definately ask a lot of questions and spend much time in prayer before signing any of the final papers. Here in CA the child must live with us for 6 months (as a foster child) prior to being officially adopted, so we will have a lot of time to get to know them before making a final decision.
Even if we go forward in God's will and do all the right things, we still know that we could end up with a child with a lot of problems. The important thing to us is to know that it was God's will. If so, He will give us the strength and wisdom to deal with whatever situations may arise.
Thanks again for your prayers.
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Post by sisterAmy on Oct 16, 2006 8:34:22 GMT -5
We too are pursuing an adoption, our 5th this will be. We have 8 children, our oldest 4 are birth and our younger 4 are adopted. We have 5 children still home. These 2 little guys are brothers, 8 and 4. Please pray for the red tape to be finished in record time so we can have them home by Christmas!!
Sister Amy
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Post by arabianlights on Oct 24, 2006 12:55:20 GMT -5
That's wonderful! I will be praying!
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Post by arabianlights on Nov 21, 2006 14:26:40 GMT -5
I want to thank you all for your prayers. I've been gone from the board for awhile do to some very good news!!
2 and a half weaks ago a little boy named Kaden came to live with us. He just turned 2 and he's as cute as can be. He's adjusted very well to our family and has no apperent behavorial, emotional or other issues. He is responding very well to our "time out" discipline so we can only imagine how well he'd be doing if we could apply Biblical discipline! lol.
He will remain a foster child in our home for 6 months, after which, if everything goes as planned, we will be able to finalize the adoption. His parental rights have already been terminated so there's no need to fear that he will end up back with his birth parents.
We are just praising God for his incredible provision!! It is so wonderful being parents!!
With a joy filled heart,
Evie
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Post by carolejw on Nov 22, 2006 8:08:26 GMT -5
What a wonderful blessing! Your family certainly has a lot to be thankful for this Thanksgiving.
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Post by Andrea on Nov 28, 2006 13:02:51 GMT -5
Praise the Lord! Thanks for the update!
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Post by Rejoiceevermore on Nov 28, 2006 19:38:31 GMT -5
This is exciting. I pray that Lord will bless you and your husband and give you wisdom how to train him up for the Lord. I know it is a blessing to love someone who has never been loved. Give him yourself, spend every free moment with him and he will cherish you as he grows up.
God bless you.
Amy
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Post by sisterAmy on Dec 30, 2006 9:36:41 GMT -5
Good morning all~
Just wanted to give y'all an update on our adoption of the 2 little boys. We are working and getting closer we hope. This process takes forever sometimes, but is so worth it. We still have some paperwork to get thru and the final home visit update. The boys are doing fine and are in a good Christian home where they are making great strides in some areas. Please continue to pray for our family as we seek God's will in situation.
Blessings~ Amy
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