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Post by glenda on May 20, 2008 19:33:51 GMT -5
Thank you all for your prayers.. God is good he is taking care of us.. I have almost got enough money up to pay my water bill. Once i have that i will then start on our insurance payment.. I am praying that by the weeks end we will be able to pay the water, internet, and insurance payment. I know that with faith and a lot of hard work we will make it.. :-) Just wanted to update you all on what is going on .. Have a blessed night all.. One more things before i go is there any way that you all could keep me in your prayers over my sleep. I am still not able to sleep more than two to three hours.. And that is in little time spands at a time.. I will go to sleep and sleep for 30 minutes or so and then i wake up.. It takes me forever to get back to sleep and it starts all over again.. God bless each of you. glenda
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Post by glenda on May 23, 2008 12:51:18 GMT -5
Hello all.. Well I had two houses to clean today.. The children and I.. This is all the work we have done all week. We made enough money to pay almost two bills. I am still short a little under 4.00 on one of the bills.. But I do have one more house to clean tomorrow and that will give me 25.00 more dollars.. With that i will be able to pay the rest of the bill and my offerenings at church.. And we will be broke again.. :-) I found out today that I will not have a phone in 48 hours. The kids dad had the phones turned off.. I am not sure what i should do now.. I do have a prepaid cel phone but i honeslty can not afford to get minutes right now for it.. Life sure can be unfair sometimes.. Well all i pray that each of you are having a blessed day.. I need to get a few things done.. Just wanted to update you all on what is going on here. god bless glenda
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Post by Tammy on May 23, 2008 15:48:29 GMT -5
Dear Sis Glenda,
I've been praying for you. Yes, it does seem like life is unfair sometimes, but God is always in charge, and these things always work together for good to them that love God and are the called according to His purpose. You are doing right to give back to the Lord the portion you've set aside. The tithe is His, and your offering is a sweet-smelling savor to Him! He will bless you.
I was just thinking, do you only charge $25 to clean a house? Is that the going rate where you live? I once filled in for a lady's house-cleaning business, and earned $50 for cleaning all the floors and bathrooms. Is it time to raise your rates? Just a thought.
Love, Sis Tammy
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Post by allglorytogod on May 23, 2008 23:39:36 GMT -5
I continue to pray
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Post by glenda on May 24, 2008 11:38:05 GMT -5
Yes for us we charge 25.00 to clean a house. That is sweeping, mopping, vacuming, dusting, cleaning all bathrooms, cleaning the kitchen, washing clothes, making beds, wipping down all baseboards and window seals. Everything.. That is what we do.. Around here that is the rate that most will pay.. some do pay a little more but most it is 25.00 god bless glenda
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Post by mitchell on May 24, 2008 20:10:14 GMT -5
It all depends on what area one lives in as to how much they can charge for work. Usually, in higher paying areas, living expenses, rent and that type of thing is generally also higher - so it sort of evens out.
Glenda, as to the lost sleep. You need your sleep. I think that if when you wake up, if you'll just decide (before the mind starts working on all the problems and you get the wide-awakes) to "cast ALL your cares - ALL, ALL, ALL - upon the Lord, for He careth for YOU", then turn over and go back to sleep. You'll be rested in the morning and better able to face each thing one thing at a time. The night time studying about it does not solve one single thing. You might ask the Lord to give you some ideas on how best to handle things while you're asleep. You might be surprised what great ideas you'll wake up with!
I hope and pray for your marriage, of course; but neither you nor your children deserve to have your lives destroyed in worry and fret due to the capricious behavior of a man. It is sad that he is acting like he is, but the fact is that he IS acting like he is, and that's the reality of it. He is going to have to live with the consequences of his actions - and it sounds like from what you say that he has gone quite deep into squalor. I cetainly hope and pray that he escapes, but that is in many ways his call.
I'll tell you a little about myself, because I have nothing to hide, and if it helps anyone else to look at their own problems in a little different light - well and good. - This may be a little long, but I think you will see that you are not alone in this. - In high school, I was a "class beauty" (irrelevant I suppose), and my graduation photograph was hanging in the studio of my husband-to-be's father's studio. He saw it and started pursuing me quite determinedly. He charmed me completely and within a few weeks, he had proposed and gave me his class ring. Somehow in the next few weeks, out of the blue - with me head over heels in love with him, he began pursuing a former girlfriend who had married someone else and had a baby. His father found out about it and made him go back to the base where he was stationed and wouldn't let him come back home to visit for the next three months. Long story short, I married him anyway - but, I should have known better, for within just a few years of our marriage, he was back up to his wandering tendencies. Our son was only 7 yrs. old, I wasn't really well and the stress only made it worse. So, after a while, he decided the woman he was "dating" wasn't such a good deal after all (I think it was the TV dinners she served him) and condescended to stay with me.
To tell you the truth, at that time STD's were not something I was very knowledgeable about and the very serious ones that are talked about now weren't then (that was over 30 yrs. ago). Frankly, men who shack up with promiscuous women are sleeping with every person the woman has ever shacked up with. I still struggle with his same old attitudes, although the "other women" business has fallen by the wayside, but I have many times felt that there was some degree of resentment on his part against me for keeping him "tied down". - To be honest, if I had it to do over, I can't honestly tell you what I wish I had done. One can't know for sure. My experience is a mixed bag. Perhaps that's the way it is for anyone when they don't start out with the proper respect for each other (not that I'm saying that's true in your case, but it has been in mine).
Much love and understanding, Sister Wanda
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Post by mitchell on May 25, 2008 15:04:55 GMT -5
I have often thought in the brief time I've been on this board that maybe I just ought to get off and not express these seemingly negative (although the truth) experiences of mine. I'm 61 yrs. old and have been married (to the same man) for over 43 yrs. Frankly, I think the main reason I've stuck it out is that I TRULY do believe that Christ MEANT exactly what he said about divorce. I also truly did believe that, over 30 yrs. ago - when I was just 27 yrs. old (still a relatively young woman and knew I might be tempted at that time to want to remarry and have help raising my son) but I really believed that, if I did that, I would be living in adultery - caused by my husband's infidelity but adultery nevertheless.
I suppose the truth is the truth, and it may be that something I could say might keep someone from making the same mistakes I made. - Of late, I have been having some major health problems made worse by his continuing insistence on maintaining the same old disregard and disrespect for me that he always has. Only when I come close to literally breaking does he alter his attitude and treatment of me, and then only until I get back to "normal", whatever that is. Right now, he is in his repentant mode, but I can no longer muster much trust in it after what must be hundreds of times of the same thing.
I can tell you all that I am probably jealous of those ladies on here who refer to the DH's and are respected by their DH's. - I'm not here to say that I'm perfect, but I HAVE tried, I have been faithful and worked hard for my family in every way as best I could. - It was a long time before I could talk to anyone about the pain I was in, but he is so charming (and CAN be a nice, polite man when he wants to, and IS a very generous person) that no one really believed me. I suppose I went through a time of hoping someone would just pray a nice little prayer, or "wave a wand" and fix the problems of disrespect, and whatever else it was - but that was silly I suppose. I finally just shut up and kept it to myself; as possibly I should do here.
I DO pray for him in case anyone is wondering. . we BOTH need prayer.
Sister Wanda
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Post by mitchell on May 25, 2008 17:47:22 GMT -5
Well, I keep replying to myself.
I will hasten to add to my considerably long comments that I think we have to consider that we are all only human. These days, there are so many environmental toxins that we are exposed to over a lifetime that we never know what sorts of poisons or additives a person has been exposed to in what they either eat, drink, handle or breathe. - For example, as a child we lived in a heavy farming area where cotton fields just about surrounded everyone's homes in the rural areas. Back then, now outlawed poisons were sprayed very heavily and fairly floated in the air. So, we breathed them a lot during the cotton growing season and even to some degree when it was picked and loaded on to the trailers and hauled all over the county to the gins in the area. - My husband worked at a very young age in his families' photography studio, at which time he had to spend hours at a time in the darkroom with his fingers and hands stuck in those strong developing fluids. Those old ones used to be linked to nerve damage and other physical problems. He also as a child used to play with the mercury out of the fever thermometers. Even after I met him, he was still getting the mercury out of those and rubbing it on silver coins to make them look shiny and new. Of course, we now know that mercury causes brain damage.
I'm not saying this to excuse anyone's bad behavior, but I think some of these environmental things cause sometimes puzzling behavior in people that we can't figure out. Of course, even considering that possibility, it still doesn't make anything all that much easier. Sigh . . . Charity and forgiveness are two good things to fall back on.
Wanda
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Post by glenda on May 25, 2008 18:33:17 GMT -5
I want to thank you for your comments. I have not been able to post due being at church...
God is good and he is taking care of me and the children. I am not sure what i will do in the time to come. All i can say is that i go daily to the Lord in prayer.
I pray over needs.. I pray over the childrens father.. I pray that one day things will be as they should be..
As far as divorce. I have made up my mind after prayer that i will not divorce there dad.. If he divorces me i can not stop him. That will be his choice. However i also will not allow him to distory the children and myself either. I will not allow him to hurt the children or me. And i will not allow him to teach the children things that i know in my heart and from the word of god that is not of God.. I just will not..
I have to protect the children and sometimes that is not easy..
Is life easy NO.. Are there things that we are going without. Oh yes.. Our daily life is not easy.. It is a matter of me daily trying to figure out how i am going to feed, cloth, and keep a roof over there heads.. All of this with only about 250 to 350 a month income..
This is a lot of stress on me.. And a lot of stress on the children. They help me daily to provide for our family..
God bless and again thank you for your comments glenda
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Post by allglorytogod on May 25, 2008 23:57:55 GMT -5
Matthew 5 : 31,32
31 - It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 - But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
1 Corinthians 7 : 39
39 - The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
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Post by allglorytogod on May 26, 2008 0:13:21 GMT -5
Praying for you and husband
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Post by Tammy on May 26, 2008 0:42:23 GMT -5
Dear Sis Glenda, don't feel bad that your children help to provide for the family! Thank God for such children, and it's also a good commentary on how they've been raised. They will not suffer as adults because they had to work as children. What they will remember most, I think, is the fun times and fellowship as a family. Be sure to have fun together - it doesn't cost a thing!
Praying for you...
Sis Tammy
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Post by allenehatherell12 on May 26, 2008 3:11:47 GMT -5
The everlasting arms
(J. R. Miller, "In Perfect Peace")
So frail is human strength, though behind it is tenderest, truest love. All that love can do, all that money can do, all that skill can do--avail nothing. Human arms may clasp us very firmly, yet their clasp cannot keep us from the power of disease--or from the cold hand of death.
But the love and strength of God are everlasting. Nothing can ever separate us from Him! An Old Testament promise reads: "The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms." Deuteronomy 33:27. If we are stayed upon the eternal God, nothing ever can disturb us--for nothing can disturb Him on whom we are reposing. If we are held in the clasp of His everlasting arms--we need not fear that we shall ever be separated from the enfolding.
The position of the everlasting arms in this picture is suggestive--"Underneath." They are always underneath us. No matter how low we sink--in weakness, in faintness, in pain, in sorrow--we never can sink below these everlasting arms! We never can drop out of their clasp!
A father tired to save his child in the waves--frantically clasping his arms around the beloved child. But his arms, though nerved by most passionate love, were too weak, and the child slipped away from them, and sank down in the dark waters.
But evermore, in the deepest floods, the everlasting arms will be underneath the feeblest, most imperiled child of God. Sorrow is very deep--but in the greatest grief, these everlasting arms of love are underneath the sufferer. Then when death comes, and every earthly support is gone from beneath us, when every human arm unclasps, and every face of love fades from before our eyes, and we sink away into what seems darkness and the shadow of death--we shall only sink into the everlasting arms underneath us!
The word "are," must not be overlooked--"Underneath are the everlasting arms." This is one of the wonderful present tenses of the Bible. To every trusting believer, to you who today are reading these words and trying to learn the lesson, God says, "Underneath you are now, this moment, every moment, the everlasting arms!"
I thought this was very beautiful. He is with us all the time, always ready to hold us up when we are struggling. Sometimes we need to take our eyes off this world and look up because this world is fleeting, with all its troubles we already have the eternal promise. What a witness we can be to those around us when we live a life that proclaims this Truth. Blessings, Sister Allene <><
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Post by allenehatherell12 on May 26, 2008 3:22:39 GMT -5
Dear Mitchell, I wanted to say thank you for sharing here with us all. I have never thought your posts negative and in fact I find them encouraging. You have had reason over the years to give up on your husband but have not. I do not always think of my husband in the best way...but I am convicted that as I write and think, speak..it has an impact so I must do all to honour God. So I do try to talk of Him well and as the time has passed DH has changed and is more supportive of my beliefs. I do not know if he will ever accept Christ, but I pray he will and I know divorce is an easy option and not one as Christians we should consider. We may give up, but Christ does not and never does on us. We need to stay in the relationship we have been placed in. I have a dear friend who was a believer when she married her unbelieving husband...and she has reaped that but in patience and love. An awful lot of sadness along the way and the children have really been placed in a difficult home due to that. She is an example though, even though she knows she was in disobedience. She loves Christ and trusts Him, He knows that and we can hope for her husbands salvation. Goodness me, it took me long enough to see the Truth. Anyway, thank you for sharing, I think it is wonderful to see diversity here on the board, everyone supports and encourages no matter where we are on our journey. There is firm doctrine and nothing wishy-washy here...but thats why I come!! its what I need to hear but I can truly say, its done in Love. Blessings, Sister Allene <><
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Post by Tammy on May 26, 2008 17:28:26 GMT -5
That is a beautiful truth.
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